Clutter and depression, could there be a link? -Hacking Parenthood

Clutter and depression, could there be a link? -Hacking Parenthood

Recently I read an article about clutter and depression, this really got me thinking as I have already started my journey of decluttering and moving to a more minimalist way of living after watching the documentary Minimalism. Woman tend to keep things that are sentimental or they think it has future monetary value. I used to think that if I don’t keep certain things that I will forget the moment or the person who gave it to me. This doesn’t help when you trying to keep things tidy. Too much stuff means mess. There is no two ways about it. I really don’t need all this stuff.

Letting go of your first couple of sentimental items can be really hard. Most of the time these items aren’t even on display. They’re usually packed away waiting for you to look at them and then leave them till the next time to look at them.

I got rid of them. This doesn’t mean I don’t like the person who gave it to me. It just means I’m helping myself let go. This felt refreshing. I felt like I was taking control of my life and what is in it. I started my journey of sorting my items about a year ago. I began my journey after reading the bookΒ ‘The Life-Changing Magic of TidyingΒ by Marie Kondo‘. It has taken me many times of clearing and sorting to get me to where I am now. Letting go of things you don’t really need can really change your mindset of life.


For example, I recently went to a garden centre to get some soil to plant some veg. While walking through, I noticed how much unnecessary stuff there was. All waiting to be bought and put somewhere so that you can feel like you’ve accomplished something. Until the next time you visit. It made me feel a bit uneasy. It made me notice how far I’v come.

Im sure I have gotten rid of at least a small bedroom of stuff. All unnecessary. I still feel that I can get rid of far more things. As my family can vouch for me as a bit of a hoarder. Times are a changing and I’m letting go. It feels great. It helps my mind be clear. I feel a lot calmer. My place is easier to clean and tidy.

I used to remember the feeling of moving into a new place, just before all the stuff would make its way into its designated place. I would feeling like I don’t want to have anything in the room, I quite liked the empty space. Many people prefer maybe even just one empty room to sit and ponder, a place to let the mind travel without being guided by the influences of what is in front of you. To just focus on the breath.

Maybe you can try letting go of something sentimental, as long as you tell yourself that it will take nothing away from the memory of what it represents. if you can do it, let me know in the comments.

Clutter and depression, could there be a link? -Hacking Parenthood

 

23 Comments

  • Reply Lyndsey O'Halloran February 2, 2017 at 9:00 pm

    I always say that you can’t keep everything everyone ever gives you because otherwise you turn into a hoarder. There has got to be a line somewhere

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:34 pm

      Its so easy to become a hoarder in this day and age, there has to be a line. you are right. Im going to try warn my family and friends of my new beliefs to hopefully not get presents and gifts that aren’t welcome.

  • Reply Lisa Backsnbumps February 2, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    I like to have a declutter every year. It’s important to hold onto the sentimental stuff but you can’t keep everything.

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:35 pm

      I hope to get to a point where i don’t need to declutter that often. Just have what we need and nothing else.

  • Reply Rhian Westbury February 3, 2017 at 9:10 am

    I am trying to go through a massive clear out of mainly my clothes as I have way way too many x

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:36 pm

      Clothes is the best place to start. its the things we use the most. Good luck with it!

  • Reply Ana February 3, 2017 at 11:03 am

    declutter is probably the hardest for me when especially sentimental items but nowadays most of us are heading towards minimalistic and only buy what you need. Which remind me to throw away any unwanted makeup or give them away.

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      I totally get you, but we can’t drag around all the sentimental stuff we acquire for ever. When does it stop?

  • Reply Cathryn - Little Paper Swans February 3, 2017 at 11:30 am

    Yes I definitely think there’s a link. My sister in law suffers from depression and recently we all helped to sort her house and it really helped her.

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:38 pm

      I agree, Iv never felt better. Well done for helping your sister out. Its totally worth it.

  • Reply Emma February 3, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    I declutter twice a year and sell what we clear out. I don’t know how we end up with so many things that gather dust! This year our decluttering has paid for a majority of our Eurotrip, which is amazing! I’m all for experiences over possessions.

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:39 pm

      Yup, love people over things. I believe that and hope to remember it for a long time. How long did you go away on your eurotrip, sounds fun!

  • Reply Anosa February 4, 2017 at 10:10 pm

    I have been trying to declutter for the last couple months to no avail due to sentimental value some of the items held but today I let go of quite a lot and felt good about it

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 6, 2017 at 1:40 pm

      That sounds amazing, you can totally do it! its completely worth it.

  • Reply Joke February 8, 2017 at 10:06 am

    Two years ago I moved to a smaller place and got rid of so much, using the Konmari book as a guide. Last month I restarted the whole process. I love tidy spaces, but am not really good at maintaining them, because I am really really chaotic. But coming into a room where there is stuff everywhere, makes me feel tired and depressed. I don’t even WANT to start tidying up then. Then I feel lazy. That makes me feel depressed. So I found out that all I have to do, is get RID of things. Then I do not have to clean them. I teach this to my daughter, so hopefully she doesn’t end up with a house that depresses you when you open the door ofthat one room that is basically a mountai of unsorted stuff. I no longer have such a room for the first time in 20 years and it feels like a relief!

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 8, 2017 at 10:10 am

      It’s such a relief when you finally realise you can get rid of most your stuff, I recently did it and I just feel so free. Realising we don’t need all this materialistic things. πŸ’šπŸ‘πŸΌ

      • Reply Joke February 8, 2017 at 10:48 am

        That is really true! I have spread the joy and will continue to do so πŸ˜€

        • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 8, 2017 at 10:53 am

          Spread the joy! Let’s make people happy again! πŸ’•

  • Reply Tania February 10, 2017 at 8:51 am

    There is what I learned from Code Black this week:

    It’s not the memories you’re afraid of. It’s replacing them with something new. It feels like a betrayal…
    ~Code Black (The TV show on CBS) 8 February 2017

    I’m still trying to figure out a way to clean out my house without dropping into total depression…. Keeping stuff seems to be a way of keeping the past around me even as the past falls away. The stuff is a security blanket, a hope that maybe, just maybe, the past will come back.

    How to move on? I feel emotionally alone. The ‘stuff’ I keep is my security blanket, the hugs I can no longer get from those I loved so much…

    I sit and I think about the past and I cry. I don’t know how to move on. I am supposed to be a Christian. I am supposed to trust God. But God doesn’t make a dent on the couch on nights when I am sad or days when I am afraid…

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood February 11, 2017 at 3:21 pm

      You need to trust yourself, that you will be ok. Once you start letting go of the security blanket, other better things start revealing themselves. You can do it!

  • Reply BARB May 20, 2017 at 1:23 am

    It seems there’s a link because of the freedom from clutter I feel when I check into a motel and – waa-laa, no clutter and I feel free again. LOL1

  • Reply Clare June 11, 2017 at 8:40 am

    Getting rid of your bed seems a bit extreme
    though? Are you seriously just camping on
    the floor like that? Wow!

    • Reply Hacking Parenthood June 11, 2017 at 10:03 am

      Not the whole bed, just the bottom bit. Better for my daughter as well as she sleeps with us. Montessori style. No worries of her falling out the bed.
      Easy to lift the mattress up in the day for more space in the house. Play room by day, bedroom by night. πŸ™‚

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