There is so much talk about ways to parent and the choices we make for our children. One thing I have learned since becoming a mum is that, no matter what and how you do your thing when it comes to understanding each other, mums have got it.
Being a mum is hard, especially if you are at the beginning of your journey. You will start to realise how every new mum is quite shocked at what it actually takes to be a mum. The journey to motherhood might have been easy or extremely hard for you. This can sometimes influence your thoughts on whether you should be more or less grateful to have you beautiful baby keeping you up at night or screaming for hours. The mum who had a baby within weeks of trying is feeling the same emotions as a mum who has tried for years for their little one. Awake in the middle of the night with no sleep can make anyone rethink their choices, sleeplessness is a form of torture. I know every mum can agree here. With this said, just the knowledge that you are not alone and that it will get better is what every mum needs to get through.
I chose to go to mummy groups to find the support, even just sitting listening to other mums talk about their own experiences, helped me realise that every single mum is going through the same thing +/- a few things. We are. Sleeplessness, feeling of being overwhelmed, scared you not doing things right. It’s hard work all day and all night long.
The thing we forget is that we are all on the same team, the team of motherhood. It’s like a sisterhood, just better. We all have different stories to share, different experiences, things that worked and didn’t work. Things that we approve or don’t approve of. It’s all relative when we break it down to what it’s actually like to be a mum. Whether you love it or hate it.
Here’s a list of things to remember:
- You Are Not Alone
- You will get through it.
- You are doing an amazing job.
- It is really hard, we all know and want to talk about it.
So, next time you see a mum, ask her ‘How are you really doing?’. Let her relieve some of her mummy pressure because we all have it.