The difference between girls and boys, and why we should call them all children.
NO GENDER, JUST CHILDREN
Boys are tough, girls are fragile. Really? Do you think it has anything to do with how society perceives girls and boys?
We tend to complain about how woman are treated in society. We don’t get equal pay, we are said to be the weaker sex. We just want to be models or princesses. Our only dreams are of marriage and kids. We do you think these messages come from. We can try so hard to say to our girls what is true and what is not, but when the message is everywhere. How do you make sure it is not the message that is absorbed.
Now that I’m a mum of a girl, I get infuriated with the messages that girls are sent. Right from the word go. Little girls should be covered in rainbows and unicorns. Covered in sparkly glitter. Wearing dresses that they can’t walk in or play even properly in. They should be protected and be prepared for being a mother only. An object of desire to a man. Little girls are called pretty, and a told to wear pretty dresses to stay pretty. They are taught to be ‘lady-like’. What is ‘lady-like’? Doing things in a way that make you seem more feminine and fragile. Just what a ‘man’ wants. Start them young.
These messages are the most obvious in your local clothing store. It is so easy to pick out which side is girls and which side is the boys. Girls side is usually pink and purple. Every other colour goes to the boys’ side. This is the wrong message. Girls are just as tough and smart and creative as boys. We need them to realise this so that they can be who they need to be without society telling them, no.
Boys are meant to be adventurous, think outside the box, be free, no constraints. This is great, but why just boys. Girls have the same instincts to be adventurous and should be encouraged to think outside the box.
In my opinion, up till a certain age, there should be no gender distinction between girls and boys, they should just be call children. What does it matter that you have a girl or a boy? The child you bring into this world should be confident to be who they need to be, regardless of what their gender is. Clothes should be aimed at children as a whole. Not have separate messages for girls or boys. The messages we share with our children are the messages they will take with them into to adulthood. What we say will be their little voice in the background. I want my daughter’s message to always be, ‘You can do it’. No matter what society says. You are strong and powerful. You can achieve whatever you want. Whether that is to be a high flying business woman or a stay at home mum. Do what you want and be proud.
No Gender. Just children!
Have a look at one of my previous posts about unschooling, thinking differently about how we give messages to our children.
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